I posted a flyer from The Collective recently for their free coaching call which took place on Wednesday. It was the first in what is to be a weekly series of free calls and I’m definitely looking forward to seeing how things develop. There wasn’t too much interaction this time due to noise issues and also the fact that it was introductory. But there’s definitely potential for it to become a very powerful tool. Greg and Keven are both very inspiring, and the community aspect of it, especially when callers can interact more with one another, will be especially motivating.
See this post for more info and contact details
Anticipating The Good — Anxiety About Change
When we find ourselves going through any kind of change in our lives, our natural response may be to tense up on the physical, mental, or emotional level. We may not even notice that we have braced ourselves against a shift until we recognize the anxiety, mood swings, or general worried feeling toward the unknown that usually results. There are positive ways to move through change without pushing it away, however, or attempting to deny that it is happening. Since change will occur in almost every aspect of our lives, we can learn to make our response to it an affirmative one of anticipation, welcoming the new while releasing the past with grace.
One thing we can do is change our perspective by changing the labels we use to identify our feelings. We can reinterpret feelings of anxiety as the anxious butterflies that come with eager expectation. With this shift, we begin to look for the good that is on its way to us. Though we may only be able to imagine the possibilities, when we acknowledge that good is there for us to find, we focus our energy on joyful anticipation and bring it into our experience while allowing the feelings to carry us forward.
We can also choose to do a ceremony to allow our emotions to process. Every culture has created ceremonies to help people make the transition from one phase of life to the next. We can always create a ceremony too, perhaps by burning written thoughts to watch the smoke carry them away, thereby releasing them, or we can welcome new endeavors by planting flowers or trees. Some ceremonial activities such as a farewell send-off or housewarming party, we may do automatically. Society also has built-in ceremonies, like graduation and weddings, which may satisfy the need we feel. Sometimes the shift from denial to acceptance is all that is needed to ease our anxiety, allowing us to bring our memories with us as we move through nervousness to joyful excitement about the good to come.
The profoundity of this is quite subtle. We need to play out the truth of
our patterns (aka fears and attachments) in order to see them for what they
are and to do this consciously we need to adopt new patterns of thought and
behavior. The trick is not simply to substitute one pattern for another
(like cigs and coffee for alchohol) but to refine each successive pattern by
weaving in more and more openness to the unknown. Finally there is only the
unknown with no patterns at all – and in the next moment – if we can survive
the terror of standing naked and alone in front of the truth = all is known.
Daniel H. Potter
Courtesy of Greg S. Carroll
The following is a great exercise called The 10 – 10’s that you can do everyday.
Writing your 10 – 10’s is a very simple thing to do. All you have to do each morning or night is write down the 10 things you are grateful for, the 10 things you intend to do each day and the 10 things you delegate to God/ The Universe to assist you with.
When you write them out every day you will see and feel positive shifts in your life. Plus you will have something super positive to reference any time you want that reminds you of how incredible your life really is all the time.
I have included a few examples of each to give you an idea of how to write them.
My Gratitude list on Month -Day -Year
1. I am grateful for the hard times I have gone through that have given me a reference point as to where I have made improvements in my life and what I have to do to manifest Joy Love, Prosperity, Abundance, Compassion, Creativity and Contribution every day of my life.
2. I am grateful that I have so many great friends.
3. I am grateful for the people who believe that they can make this world a better place to live.
4. I am grateful that e-mails were invented because they have made it so much easier for my friends from all over the world and I to keep in touch with each other.
5. I am grateful for all the people who inspire others to believe in themselves and do as much as possible to help their communities.
6. I am grateful for all the companies that are going Green in order to speed up the healing process of the earth’s Ecosystem.
7. I am grateful for Joy Love, Prosperity, Abundance, Compassion, Creativity and Contribution every day of my life.
8. I am grateful for the peace of mind I have knowing that everything is happening exactly how it is supposed to be.
9. I am grateful that I have such an incredible life.
10. I am grateful that I have such great business partners that are dedicated to helping each other achieve our business goals by doing what it takes to make all of us millions of dollars by providing quality products to people who love them.
My intention list on Month -Day -Year
My intention for the week is to accomplish all my goals and give my self and others praise for each goal we achieve.
My intentions for the day
1. I intend to have a love filled week with peace of mind at all times.
2. I intend to have perfect health
3. I intend to eat nutritional foods each meal.
4. I intend to exercise every day
5. I intend to write three pages of my thoughts every day
6. I intend to attract all the money I desire
7. I intend to wake up feeling energized and healthy each morning
8. I intend to focus on my time management and stick to my daily schedule
9. I intend to have positive uplifting conversations with everyone I talk with today.
10. I intend to celebrate all the miracles that are taking place in my life.
Today I intend for the Universe/God to assist me with …
1. In the name of the Father God, The Mother God, The Son of God, and The Universal Life Force Connecting all that is, I here and now acknowledge, declare and invoke on the following to be active from this day forward:
I call upon and commission the Angels of Truth, Justice, Mercy Of Law, Protection, Integrity, and especially the Angels of Healing, Compassion, and Forgiveness to over see, guide, and accomplish as necessary in a timely manner, All of the Following:
I AM THAT I AM
That which is truly needed According to the Highest Will of God
Including the Facilitation of Truth and Justice made relevant
With regard to Crisis and conflict in the Middle East with Healing Change for Overall Psycho-Spiritual Balance and Integrity, for All Beings and events Concerned or Effected Especially in relation to any warfare other violence, or threats of violence and or related activities, among and or involving the more powerful nations on Earth and or related entities, including the United Nations.
In and of that Light, I here and now Acknowledge, Declare, and Invoke
The facilitation of any related time, space, event, development, insight, material, guidance, and or other resource needed, for the accomplishment of that called for by this prayer.
In and by the IAM THAT IAM
I Affirm, Decree and Invoke that WE are Divinely Connected, Protected, and Directed, Waking up and Working Together!
I accept this Done,
In the name of the Father God, The Mother God, The Son of God, and The Universal Life Force Connecting all that is
2.I delegate to the God / the universe to assist me with making the perfect decision in everything that I do.
3. I delegate to the God / the universe assist me with giving all the knowledge I have about positive life principals to all the people that are open to it so that everyone can live in PEACE.
4. I delegate to the God / the universe to assist me with collecting millions of dollars every year for the rest of my life so that I can donate it to charities and foundations that provide the best educational centers and teachers for people all over the world.
5. I delegate to the God / the universe to assist me the children of the world with being listened to and respected by the adults.
6. I delegate to the God / the universe to pick the perfect president for the United States of America that is dedicated to preserving the planet and making the world a peaceful place to live.
7. I delegate to the God / the universe to bless all the children in the world with an abundance of compassion, love, shelter, friends, peace of mind and health.
8. I delegate to the God / the universe to end the wars around the world so that all living beings don’t become extinct.
9. I delegate to the God / the universe to assist me with every single person in the world in sharing love, compassion and giving which will create a more peaceful healthy planet.
10.I delegate to the God / the universe to assist me with being a philanthropist that gives some of the biggest amounts of money to charities around the world by 2012 that help people live more positive lives and to assist me with hiring the perfect people to run foundations that I fund to build housing and provide food for people all over the world.
This site produces what they call Alternative Motivational Posters. No stereotypical images of people climbing mountains, soaring eagles etc that you might find in the waiting room of your dentist’s office. These posters feel very street-art inspired and convey strong messages without the cheese. And they are very reasonably priced.
Great art + great message = real inspiration.
A couple of faves:
It is grasping for security in all its inward and outward forms
which limits the perspective of enlightenment and maintain an
inwardly divided condition which is the cause of all suffering and
You must want to know the truth more than you want to feel secure in
order to fully awaken to the fact that you are nothing but Awakeness
Shortly after I began teaching I noticed that almost everyone coming
to see me held a tremendous number of superstitious ideas and beliefs
that were distorting their perceptions and limiting their scope of
What was most surprising was that in almost all cases, even those
who had deep and profound experiences of spiritual awakening
continued to hold onto superstitious ideas and beliefs which
severally limited the depth of experience and expression of true
Adyashanti (Steven Gray)
~ via Greg Nice
If you can see it, you can be it.
What is the difference in the psychology of a winner and a loser; of one who is stressed out and one who is relaxed; of one who is angry and one who is calm; of one who is worried and one who is confident? Although it may not be possible to account for every variable, a large portion of the difference is attributed to how one views situations and what one says to themselves. Many outcomes are predetermined by our beliefs and our beliefs are influenced by our visions and our self talk.
Creative Visualization and Simulation
In examining NASA astronauts who had the “right stuff”, world class athletes, top level CEOs, the best surgeons, and the most accomplished artistic performers, researchers have found some common traits. It seems that many of these individuals prepare themselves mentally for any challenge they encounter. The performance in the face of these challenges often seems effortless. The reason it appears effortless is that these individuals have practiced the skill over and over in their mind hundreds of times. Winners are masters of the art of simulation. They have seen themselves perform flawlessly and that becomes their self fulfilling prophecy. As Dennis Waitely puts it, “Winners say, ‘Of course I can do it! I’ve practiced it mentally a thousand times.’ Losers say, ‘How can you expect me to do it? I don’t know how!'”
Watch a world class down hill skier prior to a big race and you will see them close their eyes and ski the course in their mind. On the absolute edge of their skis, they are going faster than anyone has dared to go. Watch the Olympic gymnast before the big event. They see themselves perform the most difficult maneuvers without a miss. Dismounting perfectly, they see themselves “stick it” and get the perfect 10. It is no different for the experienced sales person who negotiates the best contract or the speaker who gives the most motivational presentation. High level performers practice physically and visually over and over again. It was Thomas Jefferson who said, “I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it”.
Many commercial relaxation tapes use examples of guided imagery to get people to relax. If one can create a visual scene of relaxation the body will adjust accordingly. Visualization for relaxation works best when individuals are able to create their own relaxing scenes. Not everyone is relaxed by floating on waves or in the clouds. These images can be very stressful for some. If you want to use visualization for relaxation, imagine yourself being in the most relaxing environment you have ever been in. Real or imagined recreate that special place as vividly as possible.
The power of visualization is so strong that is has been found to influence our physiology at a microbiological level. Cancer patients taught to practice visualization of tumors shrinking and cancer cells dying as an adjunct to chemotherapy, got well at a significantly higher rate than a control group receiving only chemotherapy. The literature is full of examples of controlled studies where visualization has been used to enhance both physiology and performance.
It is difficult if not impossible to visualize excellent performance if your self talk is negative. The mind will believe what you tell it. It is important to combine visualization exercises with positive affirmations. Poor performers and those with a negative self image tend to be self depreciating. If you tell yourself you can not do something you will be very surprised if you are successful and rightly so.
It can be very difficult to change negative self talk if this is part of your personality, part of who you are. Often when people try to change they end up putting themselves down even more each time they catch themselves saying something negative. For example, “I should have done better on that exam, I am so dumb sometimes. There I go criticizing myself again, I’m such a loser”. Rather than trying to eliminate negative self talk, try and reduce it by practicing saying positive things to yourself. This is not easy and often people will feel silly and phony using affirmations (i.e., Stuart Smalley from SNL, “You’re good enough, you’re smart enough and gosh darn it people like you”). If someone has spent their whole life listening to negative scripts, it is unlikely that they will immediately believe the positive statements they make. It takes time and practice.
Below are some guidelines and suggestions for the use of visualization and affirmations.
Phrase affirmations using the first person singular. Take ownership of the statement. You can not control others only yourself. For example, “I am…”, “I can…”
Phrase affirmations in the present tense when possible. You can not change the past. The future is too unpredictable to control.
Phrase affirmations in the most positive way possible. Avoid the use of words like “no”, “don’t”, and “not” in your affirmations. This is very important because your brain is not capable of visualizing a negative action. The right side of your brain is predominately visual, the left side is logical and literal. In many ways they do not communicate very well. If you are practicing self-hypnosis all suggestions should be positive. To illustrate this ask someone to do exactly as you say, then tell them to close their eyes and not think about what their hands are doing. If you ask them, they will tell you that when you asked them not to think of their hands, they thought of their hands. Your visual brain can not understand the word not. Its like when you are riding a bike and you tell yourself not to hit a rock in the road. You will inevitably run right over the rock because that is the picture you have created for your brain and your brain controls your muscles.
Sport psychologist have understood this for some time and there are lots of sports examples. Have you ever been in the classic situation playing softball or baseball? Its the last inning, your team is losing, the bases are loaded, there are two outs, with you up at bat and two strikes. If under these circumstances you say to yourself, “don’t strike out”, that is probably what will happen. What the best batters will do is visualize what part of the field they are going to hit the ball to. There is no doubt that they are going to hit it, it is a matter of where they will hit it.
If you are taking an exam, or preparing to give a speech, or going for job interview, or asking someone for a date, if you say, “don’t get stressed out”, you are creating a picture of someone who is stressed out. If you say, “I feel calm and relaxed, I am confident and alert” then you are creating an image of someone who is relaxed and confident.
The implications of this can be profound. If you are a parent, teacher, administrator or leader of any type, tell people what you want them to do. Don’t tell them what you don’t want them to do.
Make affirmations short, simple and clear. Brevity furthers. Long complex statements are more difficult to internalize.
Use as many senses as possible in affirmations and visualizations. Verbalize statements out loud after writing them down. Better yet watch yours and listen to yourself say these statements while standing in front of a mirror. When you visualize your performance, recreate as much of the scene as possible to create an accurate simulation. Imagine what it sounds like, what it feels like, smells like, etc….
Make affirmations and visualizations emotional. Imagine what it will feel like to be happy, successful, powerful, self-assured. Visualize yourself experiencing these emotions. At the same time work to eliminate statements of negative emotions from your life (e.g., I’m tired, I’m sad/depressed, I’m lonely, I’m bored, I’m overwhelmed, etc…).
In summary, create and image of someone you want to become and then continue to focus on that image. Figure out what you want to be able to say about yourself and then start saying it.
Just wanted to draw your attention to an excellent blog I just discovered, Running Through Rain. Actually they discovered us, so go check it out and enjoy. They are also listed in the blogroll. Seems like its also a brand new site so I’m looking forward to seeng how it develops.
Here’s a couple of interesting posts to check out. This guy from The Momo Zone is a real character and definitely puts a unique face on personal development and all this foofy stuff we talk about!